Couples
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Love, love is a verb
Love is a doing word
Fearless on my breath
—Massive Attack
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I won’t fear love.
—Sarah McLachlan
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Beneath every complaint is a wish.
—Esther Perel
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Please note: My couples practice is currently on pause while I focus on individual trauma work. When I resume couples work I will remove this notice.
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Over it?
Feeling more like roommates instead of lovers? Unseen and unheard despite countless hours together? Longing for your partner to really get what you're feeling in these ever-uncertain times?
You are not alone.
Passionate about couples work, I can help you and your partner:
· Learn what it is you're really fighting about
· Understand how & why you get stuck
· Repair from the stuckness
· Return to feeling loved, supported & cared for again
Having navigated the serene and stormy seas of my own interracial marriage & partnership of 20+ years, I know firsthand the joys and challenges of intimacy in hard times. I want to co-create a space in which you both feel safe enough to share your deepest relational longing, and for that longing to be truly seen, heard, felt and understood, each of you by the other, perhaps for the first time.
My work is emotionally-focused and attachment-based. Mindful communication is a passion, as is offering practical tools for sustaining long-term intimacy, such as learning and practicing each other’s love languages. It is my experience that couples therapy can have long-lasting positive effects, even from just a few sessions. It is also my experience that it can even be fun!
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Couples approaches
EFT: Emotionally Focused Therapy
IFI0: IFS/parts work for couples